How to Get Kids on a Path to Better Wellbeing

How to Get Your Child on a Path to Better Wellbeing

University of Otago researchers found that 15-year-olds told more coherent stories about turning points in their lives if their mothers had been taught the new conversational techniques 14 years earlier. These adolescents also reported fewer symptoms of depression and anxiety compared to adolescents in the study whose mothers had conversed with their toddlers as usual.

Published in the Journal of Personality, the research is a follow-up of a reminiscing intervention in which 115 mothers of toddlers were assigned to either a control group or given training in elaborative reminiscing for a year. Elaborative reminiscing involves open and responsive conversations with young children about everyday past events, such as feeding ducks at the park.

Elaborative reminiscing involves open and responsive conversations with young children about everyday past events, such as feeding ducks at the park. Photo by RODNAE Productions / Pexels

The Importance of Modeling

Project lead Professor Elaine Reese, of the Department of Psychology, says adolescents whose mothers had participated in the earlier coaching sessions narrated difficult events from their lives – such as parental divorce or cyber-bullying, with more insight into how the experience had shaped them as people.

The research, initially funded by the Marsden Fund of the Royal Society Te Apārangi, is the first to show long-term benefits of mother-child reminiscing for adolescents’ development. “Our findings suggest that brief coaching sessions with parents early in children’s lives can have long-lasting benefits, both for the way adolescents process and talk about difficult life events and for their wellbeing,” Professor Reese says.

“We believe parents’ elaborative reminiscing helps children develop more complete, specific, and accurate memories of their experiences, providing a richer store of memories to use when forming their identities in adolescence. Elaborative reminiscing also teaches children how to have open discussions about past feelings when they’re no longer in the heat of the moment.”

She hopes parents and policy makers realize the importance of early childhood as the ideal time for starting to have positive conversations with children, and to know that these conversations can make a difference as children grow older. “The ultimate goal is to encourage parents to have more sensitive and responsive conversations about events in their children’s lives.”

Mother modeling elaborative reminiscing with child. Photo by Ketut Subiyanto/ Pexels

Lead author and clinical psychologist Dr Claire Mitchell says a great deal of research now shows wellbeing can drop dramatically in adolescence. “For some young people, this dip is the beginning of more severe mental health issues that can be difficult to treat. Thus, it is important to find ways to prevent mental health difficulties earlier in life if possible.

“As a parent of a toddler myself, I can confirm that these elaborative reminiscing techniques are enjoyable and easy to learn. Our study helps pave the way for future work with parents of young children to promote healthy interactions from the beginning that could have enduring benefits,” she says. The researchers intend to continue the study, following up with participants in emerging adulthood to determine any ongoing effects of their mothers’ elaborative reminiscing.

StepUp Note

StepUp programs are specifically designed to build children’s confidence and set them up for success in the classroom and at home. Our approach to learning combines movement, rhythm, and repetition with an early learning curriculum. Similar to elaborative reminiscing, where parents model the practice of retelling and reframing events with their children, StepUp exercises are modeled on the screen and allow students to self-evaluate how well they match the model. As students progress through the levels, we see that they change their movements in order to “make a match” thus building confidence and self-esteem.



Reposted from University of Otago